Women’s Rights: Suffering under Men’s abuse

A case study of abuse at home

The gender-based violence against women has become an important debate nowadays. In Pakistan, generally, it is observed to show violent behaviour towards women to fulfil one’s will. It is a sign of the weak male gender, who opts for this sort of attitude and tries to malign women to show his domination. Usually, the Islamic role has been interpreted by this group of people as letting them do whatever they want. They just need their desires to be met at once by showing violent behaviour.

In this regard, the case is highlighted of a well-educated man from Rawalpindi, who wanted to fulfil his desire of getting rich by showing violent behaviour towards his then-wife. He wanted his wife’s property share immediately. He was continuously under the pressure of his family to abuse his wife, and according to their thinking, by keeping a woman under constant pressure, she would surely, bring all her property share from her living parents.

His mother, who was a widow as well, showed the most wicked plan along with her daughter, son-in-law, younger son, and his wife. Such widows still play a wicked role in the lives of their children. These wicked women and men are still living in our surroundings, who just want their desires to be filled their way, showing shocking and amazing social, and family values. Throughout 17 years of marriage, the woman was being played as a victim in every sense. She was criticized and abused by her family, relatives, based on her education, bringing up, etiquette, and well-being of her children.

The jealousy and greed were obvious. Those with this sort of mentality don’t digest good character and hard-working girls. They just want to steal whatever the other girl is having due to her hard work. They try to create every sort of hurdle in the way of such girls as this family has created. They are termed psychopaths by experts as their desire for wealth was not being fulfilled, and they started to torture and abuse the girl. The whole plan was being heard by the girl as she was there all the time. The family used to make video conference calls with the daughter and brother-in-law on a daily basis behind closed doors to malign the girl and grab all sorts of her valuables and money. The wicked plan was being made against her. As soon as their meeting ended, the husband and his family started to implement as the family decided.

The family had the plan to start a fight immediately. The victim was dragged by the hair, pulled, punched on her whole body, and kicked along with the abuses of the whole family. As they all were on the point as heard by a girl, this is the right way to grab someone’s property. This particular family is accustomed to doing the same as they have done the same within their family and after getting the property they divorced the girl, who was their close relative as well. Their younger brother did the same with his ex-wife. They grab property, jewellery, car, ande s on of girls and immediately run door to door to get hold of another girl to marry their sons.

They are habitual of doing this for years as they did this with their uncle’s wife from the father’s side, as well as from their mother’s side. Just to see the real face of such people, the mother, dragged her unmarried sister and mother from their house and forced them to sign papers of the house in her name. Horrifying and shameful characters are still present in our surroundings. They take the help of Islam and show they are doing all on the Islamic values.

The plan was to first grab property and push two grown-up kids onto the expense of the bgirl’s parents. The whole family was witnessing everything and encouraged the man to beat her up. Such a plan to shun the responsibilities of being a father is shameful. One can not think of such a person and a family, who planned in such a way.

They are not even honest with their children. They are black stains in our society. On the other hand, the family was observed as isolated, and lacking social, moral, Islamic, and ethical values. Not even a single person from their family was observed in the life of 17 years visiting their houses. All the time, they were fighting with everyone and never allowed anyone to enter their house.

Such families have exposed themselves as greedy, and jealous, who can do anything for the sake of money. They have destroyed the security and confidence of young children and snatched their happiness by snatching the shadow of their mother. This family should be taken behind the bars as their fate, otherwise, without punishment, these criminals will be moving freely and will keep doing the same as the whole family has been doing for the past many years.

Whenever the girl’s family tried to visit their daughter, they started to abuse her and, used to say, people came to their house to eat. The girl was blamed for eating their food, even her husband used to snatch the plate from her hands while eating his food. Such shameful and lowest values are shown. The highlights are lessons for those parents, who are seeing such people involved in these sorts of behaviour should be brought to the court.

Regarding this family, the court has come up with the decision of fard-e-jurm. Such wild wolves should be taken head-on, who are too weak to take the pressures and responsibilities of one’s wife, and children. It is shameful to be associated with such a family, as life is precious and these sorts of men and families don’t deserve such a hardworking, solid character and nice girl. On the other hand, the honorable Supreme Court also wrote in their judgement in this case that the man has been found weak, selfish, greedy, and violent to take himself out from the responsibility of his children and wife. The court has labelled such a family a criminal which should be exposed and get their punishment.

Regarding violence against women, Amnesty International raised a voice and termed it a human right, which is not negotiable. They are of the view that women have equal rights to live free of violence or from any threat, without mental and physical abuse. The platform focuses on respecting women’s rights.

Women’s suffrage goes back to the 19th and 20th centuries when they were barred from voting. In this regard, in 1893, New Zealand became the first country to recognize the presence of women in political affairs. This movement then became widespread, and today woman’s suffrage is a right under the Convention on the Elimination of All forms of Discrimination Against Women (1979). Still, there are many countries, where women are barred from many platforms such as Syria, where women are cut off from political grounds. In many tribal areas of Pakistan, many women are barred from voting or exposing their faces, and the same goes for Afghanistan due to conservative values.

According to World Report 2023, Pakistani authorities are observed failing in providing adequate protection or bringing perpetrators to account. A development is observed by the appointment of the first female Supreme Court Judge, Justice Ayesha Malik, which shows equality on the professional ground.

Pakistan’s Parliament also passed a bill to strengthen protections for women against violence and harassment in January 2023.  All eyes are on the justice system even on fard-e-jurm, how the mentioned abusers will be dragged into punishment behind bars. These sorts of criminals are destroying the lives of daughters and sisters and are not stoppable. It’s a loud shout-out to judges to take strict action against these criminals who are habitual, shameless, and insensitive.

Such families have exposed themselves as greedy, and jealous, who can do anything for the sake of money. They have destroyed the security and confidence of young children and snatched their happiness by snatching the shadow of their mother. This family should be taken behind the bars as their fate, otherwise, without punishment, these criminals will be moving freely and will keep doing the same as the whole family has been doing for the past many years.

Dr. Saira Asad
Dr. Saira Asad
The writer is a PhD from University Tun Hussein Onn Malaysia (UTHM), an award-winning columnist, researcher, and Adjunct Assistant Professor at Riphah International University (Media Sciences Department), Islamabad, Pakistan. She can be reached at [email protected].

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