Men cant say no: Khalilur Rehman Qamar blames women for married men cheating

Khalil ur Rehman Qamar has once again sparked controversy after making remarks about infidelity and marriage that quickly triggered debate online.

Speaking during a recent discussion on cheating within marriages, the writer argued that women, rather than men, were largely responsible for affairs involving married men. “Who do these men cheat with?” he asked during the conversation. “Of course other women — and women never blame those women.”

Qamar went on to say that women should protest against the women involved in such relationships instead of directing all the blame toward men. “You should march against them, raise placards against these women,” he said.

The writer then made another controversial claim, arguing that men lack the ability to reject romantic or physical advances from women. “He added that a man does not have the power to reject a woman’s advances,” the discussion continued, suggesting that cheating occurs because “other women show interest.”

One of the most widely circulated lines from the interview was: “‘Mard nay tou kabhi aapka ghar barbad nahi kiya, wo kar he nahi sakta agar dusri larki haan na karay.’”

At the same time, Qamar also criticized men during the conversation, calling them “dou number” and acknowledging that many wives ultimately forgive infidelity despite being hurt by it. He added that women always have the option to leave a marriage if they choose not to tolerate such behavior.

The comments quickly spread across social media, where users reacted strongly to the idea that men were somehow powerless in situations involving cheating.

Critics accused Qamar of completely shifting accountability away from men and reducing infidelity to something caused solely by women’s actions. Others mocked the suggestion that grown men are incapable of refusing advances.

Supporters, meanwhile, argued that he was highlighting the role all parties play in extramarital relationships rather than defending cheating itself.

The backlash adds to a long history of controversies surrounding Qamar, who frequently makes headlines for ill-informed, and outdated opinions on gender dynamics, marriage, and relationships in Pakistani society.